And I am the black sheep with 2 failed marriages against a backdrop of no divorce except to say both my parents were raised by single mothers due to the death of the fathers (my father's father killed himself although my father supposedly did not know and my grandmother remarried and so I did have a grandfather ). I am sure I picked up on the single mother-ness.
My father graduated college, my mother went to college but did not graduate because she got married (I guess) and the degree sought was MRS as she met my father in college ...there was no expectation that I do better just that I get married ..haha...in that manner I did worse - twice divorced ...my mother had a successful 29 year marriage till my father dropped dead. (he dropped dead there is no other way to say it). I have lived with the lack ever since and before. I was 26 when my father died.
My own parents remained married for over 50 years despite my father’s alcoholism which ravaged my childhood. He was my mom’s beloved although he was a crazy-maker. I’m sure my own 3 failed marriages were rooted in early childhood angst ☹️😳
Thank you for this. My whole memoir is based on my lack mentality. My working title is based is based on it. My biggest fear is one of homelessness. I fucked my kids up the I got divorced and told them we would be homeless (it was not true ) and now their relationship to money is unhealthy. My mother's relationship to money (which she now has but did not as a child) is do not spend and is obsessed with what things cost. I never developed the skills or the abundance mindset which is why I settled for these poverty level jobs. And society is pervasive in that is really does exacerbate it. Good post.
I grew up under a cloud of lack. Determined to “do better” than my parents, I became the first to graduate college and hold corporate jobs. I had it all, lost it, found a new leveling, and have happily and purposefully lived comfortably the life of a solopreneur for decades now. Thanks for checking in ❤️😊
Read mine...I can't even organize my thoughts to write it..it's all over my journals, computer, and in my head ...lmao....
And I am the black sheep with 2 failed marriages against a backdrop of no divorce except to say both my parents were raised by single mothers due to the death of the fathers (my father's father killed himself although my father supposedly did not know and my grandmother remarried and so I did have a grandfather ). I am sure I picked up on the single mother-ness.
Our collective histories are the stuff memoirs are made from. I can’t wait to read yours (and finish mine).
My father graduated college, my mother went to college but did not graduate because she got married (I guess) and the degree sought was MRS as she met my father in college ...there was no expectation that I do better just that I get married ..haha...in that manner I did worse - twice divorced ...my mother had a successful 29 year marriage till my father dropped dead. (he dropped dead there is no other way to say it). I have lived with the lack ever since and before. I was 26 when my father died.
My own parents remained married for over 50 years despite my father’s alcoholism which ravaged my childhood. He was my mom’s beloved although he was a crazy-maker. I’m sure my own 3 failed marriages were rooted in early childhood angst ☹️😳
Thank you for this. My whole memoir is based on my lack mentality. My working title is based is based on it. My biggest fear is one of homelessness. I fucked my kids up the I got divorced and told them we would be homeless (it was not true ) and now their relationship to money is unhealthy. My mother's relationship to money (which she now has but did not as a child) is do not spend and is obsessed with what things cost. I never developed the skills or the abundance mindset which is why I settled for these poverty level jobs. And society is pervasive in that is really does exacerbate it. Good post.
I grew up under a cloud of lack. Determined to “do better” than my parents, I became the first to graduate college and hold corporate jobs. I had it all, lost it, found a new leveling, and have happily and purposefully lived comfortably the life of a solopreneur for decades now. Thanks for checking in ❤️😊